What Makes A Man A Husband Material? Ladies Pls We Need Ur Opinion On This One

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We have treated the topic about what makes a woman a wife material, and we have seen many responses from men about their opinion of a wife material, the responses were intense. Read the post here

The purpose of this topic is to help develop people's mind on the ideas of marriages, we are also forming study from the topic to understand what individuals want from marriages.

Now we want to hear from ladies about husband material...

 

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Nigerian ladies are interested in:

1. 6 parks

2. 7.5ft height

3. Handsomeness

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1) Be Pleasant : Nobody likes an arrogant man. Be pleasant to everyone around you including your wife, friends and family. Be warm, kind,positive, understanding and friendly.

 It is often heard said that ‘What we give is what we get back.’ Try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you can even if you had a bad day at office or is physically exhausted after driving through the traffic jams. Just because your wife does not go out to work does not mean that her work is less strenuous. She might have been struggling with the children and the housework all day.


2) Respect the Vows : Faithfulness or Loyaltyis one of the prime qualities a wife wantsin her man. Have a sense of honor and duty. Remember that when you got marriedyou took the sacred vows.

 The honorable thing is to fulfill the duty to your wife that you took upon yourself the day you got married. It is the duty of a man to provide for his family. Never expect your wife to contribute to the smooth operation of the household. Evenin this day and age of women in the workplace, most prefer to have that as an option rather than a necessary part of their lives. Motherhood and caring for a husband and home usually takes priority for her. Never assume that themoney you earn is yours to do with as you like. You have a family to think about now and their needs must always come before your own.

3) Reliable, Responsible and Supportive : Every Woman wants her partner to be reliable and be there for her when she needs her. Support your wife in all stages of life. Provide reassurance when she is feeling down. Do not belittle her or hurt her ego. If she is a working woman understand her work pressures and problems. 

Be proud of her on her accomplishments and do not forget to complement her. Be available for her whenshe needs a shoulder to cry or when she needs support from you. Let her know thatyou care for her. Whenyou are not near her at least make a phone call to her even if you talk to her for only a minute or two. When you come back after work or on weekend do things with her or help her in whatever way possible. 

She would appreciate even if you are not much of help because you are tried to help her. Be a friend to her.When you don’t agree with her views respectfully let know that you don’t agree with reasons.


4) Adaptability and Sensitivity : As years pass on you'll see that glowing woman you fell in love with years ago does not look the same or behave in the same manner. She may be tied up with the pressures at home like needs of children, financial obligations etc. 

Allow her time to relax by taking some work off her shoulders or take some time out so that you can spend some time together relaxing. Be sensitive to the needs of your wife and looks to meet them. Do not let your feelings toward life's changes affect feelings toward your wife. An Ideal Man needs to be sensitive to the requirements ofthe partner, treat her as an equal, understand when she needs to stay late at work or help with housework and contribute to the expenses.

5) Show Respect : If you expect respect from others you need to treat others with respect too. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. 

Always speakin a loving manner and refrain from speaking harshly. A good husband never chooses to belittle strike, humiliate or otherwise harm his wife in private or in public. It is better to watch what you say and to think your thoughts through before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they have been spoken. 

Treat her withrespect in front of others and at home. Do not look at other ladies in front of her. Take in consideration her opinion when making important decisions of the family. If you are bringing your buddies home let her know in advance.

6) Judgment and Emotional Baggage : Many of us have emotional baggage. But do not bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. Many men praise theirprevious wives, girlfriends or mother in front of their wives.

Avoid judging every action or opinion yourwife has and understand that she is different from you. Her experiences and likings may be different from you too. Comparing her or making her feel that she does not measure up only would ruin your marriage.

7) Communication : Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage. Women also expect honesty in men. Honesty is what buildstrust in your relationship with yourwoman. She may evenforgive your mistakes but only if you are honest with her and promise not to do it again. 
Women like their men to be open to them at all times and not keep them in the dark about what isgoing on in their man’s life. Find time to sit and talk with your wife on a daily basis even if it is during the Dinner time. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share withyour wife then your marriage is in trouble.Be a good listener when she talks. Your wife too wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life.
Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. Woman cannot resist a man who understands her moods, attitude, feelings, values, likes and dislikes. 

This would encourage her to open up with you and don’t keep secrets.Good Communication helps in building trust and strengthens your relationship. Make your woman laugh often. Women love men who are witty and have a sense of humor.Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves
. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding her of her faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper.

8 ). Love and Affection : Show your love and affection to her as often as possible. Every woman is a sucker of affection. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere.

 A good husband will appreciate his wife and will notice her, even after twenty or fifty years of marriage. She needs you to notice when she gets that new haircut or dresses up in something sexy for you to come home to. If you fail to notice what she is doing for you too many times, she may just count it as fruitless and quit. Gift your Partner something fancy whenshe least expects it.

 Surprise her by planning a trip, preparing a nice dinner, giving a bunchof her favorite flowersor taking her out for shopping. Every Woman likes to be pampered. Women, one way or the other, are nothing but over grown babies who constantly need care. But every woman has their likings, give things what she likes instead of forcing yourlikes on her and show her that you care and would be always therefor her. Never forget the special days in her life.

 Make an effort to initiate spontaneous affection with your wife. Build the companionship by doing things together whether it is a common interest or hobby. Give her a hug or surprise kiss and tell her how much youlove her. Hold hands with her when you’re out together. These small gestures show your wife that you’ve thought of her and help you reinforce your commitment to your wife.

9) Offer Protection : A woman need to feel safe and secured with her man. She needs to feel that when he is with her no one can harm her. You don't need to be a muscle man but at least whenyou are with her others should not be making a pass at her. She wants her man to behave like a man andtreat her like a lady when she is with you.


10) Give her Space : Asa Husband you need tounderstand that your wife has a life other than you also. She has her Parents, friends and colleagues who too are part of her life.She also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect her undivided attention. Don’t stop her if he wants to go out and hang out withher friends sometimesor engage in a hobby or want to spend some time with her parents.


11) Keep her happy in Bed : Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in anymarriage. Good Sex helps to strengthen your emotional and physical attraction to her. 
Please your wife in bed and be faithful to her. No woman would tolerate a cheating partner. Goodsex plays a vital part when it comes to a satisfying relationshipand if you are not skilled in bed that is going to be a major turn off. Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child. Do not bringporn into a relationship. Porn will only create unrealistic expectations in your mind about your spouse’s libido, body, and comfort level withweird sex positions.

In short, if you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior. If you are anideal husband, that will help your wife to be an ideal wife. A wife usually responds to the way that she is treated. If she is treated like she is worthless, she will be worthless to you. But, if you treat her well, she will be a jewel in your crown, a pleasure to you and a
achievement. Don’t let family and society brainwash you.

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After writing his controversial article titled ‘20 Qualities A Wife Material Must Posses‘, Joro Olumofin decided to do a follow-up article which would aid women in spotting a man ready for marriage (or husband material as he calls it). Below is the list/criteria that must be met by men before you should say yes to their proposal… according to Joro

1. Any guy who has suggested at least Church or Bible study date is HM ( Propose to Him)
2. If his whatsapp doesn’t show ✅when a message comes in he’s not HM
3. Any guy who won’t give you his last piece of meat or let you take extra spoons from his ice cream is NOT HM
4. If he chases instagram celebs, plastics girls with 46 inch Brazilian hair, 6 inch nails who have “berry,cherry, Barbie, Velvet,doll” as their IG name hes not HM
5. If he leaves his phone open, no password or locks, he’s HM
6. If he shares an apartment with more than 3 other guys is not HM
7. Any guy whose phone is constantly on silent. No ringer or vibration is not HM
8. If he doesn’t have a 9-5 job or a defined job but calls himself a CEO he’s not HM
9. Any guy who has untidy/dirty beard is not a HM (RUN)
10. If he has more than 10 body counts he’s not HM
11. He must know how to make at least indomie, Rice, yam, stew and plantain
12. If he has more than 2 Baby mamas he’s not HM
13. If he gives you his atm card, chequebook freely he’s HM
14. � If he can not go more than 7 rounds in one day he’s definitely not HM ( Propose to Him)
15. If he has more than 6 bank accounts with no Money he’s not HM
16. If he doesn’t condone unplanned visit to his place he’s not HM
17. If he has been to moremi hall, Redeemers or Babcock University more than 5 times this year he’s not HM ( RUN)
18. If he’s owing night clubs money or borrows car, toothbrush he’s not HM
19. If he’s willing to father a single mothers child and marry her he’s HM
20. If he hides you from his friends, family, Pastor he’s not HM
21. If he always has a table at the club every Friday he’s not HM
22. If he likes or comments on more than 15 ladies picture per day on IG he’s not HM
23. he asks you to borrow him less than 20k he’s not HM
24.If he takes you to the cinema and doesn’t buy ordinary popcorn he’s not HM
25. If he doesn’t have a single Christian song on his phone he’s not HM
26. If he talks negatively about his ex he’s not HM
27. If he’s above 35 and has not committed he’s a chronic player not HM
Do you agree ?

Source:- http://www.lekkigists.com.ng/2018/01/how-to-identify-husband-material-in.html

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